Modern Etiquette 

Ryan and Leslie talk emerging rules of etiquette, specifically the new rules around communication. They do some demonstrating in the minicasts. 

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Ep-9 ​Modern Etiquette Life Admin
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Episode Minicasts - Handshakes and Phonecalls

Show Notes & Helpful Links

66/ Mindset: Gratitude

Its the term for the adults still caring for children at home when their own parents care needs rise.  It can be complicated, messy and a little uncomfortable. We are here to help navigate.

65/ It Takes a Village 

Life shouldn't be lonely.  We are meant to be together and thrive!  Today we talk about what happened to the village and how we can rebuild it.

64/ How to Delegate

Effective delegation is a neglected skill. Circular trap. When it doesn’t quickly work, we often think it is easier to do things ourselves, which makes effective delegation more elusive..

63/ Back To School

Having now seen school from almost every angle and gotten perspective from the pandemic, I have many thoughts on what I would do differently if I had the chance. 

Set the table

So much has changed, esp in communications, in past two decades, Etiquette rules take time to develop. Only starting to firm up now, which means they've not been taught well yet with some big generation gaps.

 

Segment 1: Communication

 

Ryan: How we interact has to be biggest. What are some of the new rules forming around e-communication and when to do it?

Leslie: Big area of merging old and new. Everyone is right and everyone is wrong: neither email or paper mail are dead but neither is sufficient, and face to face will never go out of style. Sometimes you have to shake hands [update for 2020: or elbow bump] and make eye contact. 

 

  • New rules forming around when to use which types. 

  • Texting is casual. Leave it out of the office

  • Email is the great middle. Best for work coms and everything but formal invites or invites that go to retirement age and up. 

  • Snail mail is still useful. Formal invites, handwritten letters, which have more cashe now that they are rarer. If postcards, not packets, can still be good for business promotions. 

Segment 2:  Face to Face

 

Ryan: I think its important to know your audience?  The way to speak to different people in different.

 

Ryan:  Speaking to your signifiant other with care.  What are some good tips? Or guidelines?

Talk about the stuff we cover in the mini casts. [Benefiting the changing nature of this topic, we free form discussed it in the episode.]

Closing. 

Helpful Links

Some book recommendations, to start.

  • Digital Etiquette by Victoria Turk. It's short and to the point on modern communication norms, and bonus, it looks good on a desk or table, (I like it when books can do double duty as functional art.) And it looks like the US version has a very different title. While the UK version is "Digital Etiquette: Welcome to etiquette 2.0 The future of good manners," the US title is "Kill Reply All: A modern guide to online etiquette from social media to work and love."

  • Emily Post's Etiquette. It is still the standard and on it's 19th edition updated by her great nephew and, I think, a granddaughter. 

  • For a snarky version, not as complete but also not as dry as the Posts', try Good Manners for People Who Sometimes Say F*ck

  • Modern Etiquette Made Easy is new, as in, I've preordered it. But I found it by a source I like, so it is intriguing enough that I'll link to it here.