Conflict Resolution

Jim is back for today's episode!  Jim breaks down all of the different aspects of conflict resolution.  He shares his wisdom from years of dealing with different types of negotiation in the workplace and at home.

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EP-26 Conflict ResolutionLife Admin
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Show Notes

Set the table: We’ve got another guest. Leslie's husband, Jim, who does conflict resolution for a living

 

Segment 1: Stuff that causes domestic conflict

 

Ryan: 20 years married, what kind of stuff becomes conflict? 

Jim: 

 

  • With Leslie?  Nothing. (Ha ha.)

  • It’s not the big things - crises and disasters will, over time, be the easier things to navigate - interpersonal conflict recedes in the face of the shared problem.

Ryan - what about the small things?

  • It’s the small things you have to work on - over time, repetitive, don’t engage our focus in the way that, say, a flood or pandemic; our guard is down

  • Divide them into some subjects, some behaviors.  

  • Subjects are exactly what you’d predict: Money. Kids. In-laws. Chores.

  • Behaviors - less obvious, require more thought, but not conceptually hard to manage. Key: this is a Partnership.  Doesn’t sound sexy, but it is the cornerstone- applies to everything, even sex, really.  

Leslie - back to the behaviors...

    • Attention - eye contact

    • Listen - 

    • Understand the rough edges - what matters?

    • Call your own fouls

    • Partners share duties - but also authority

    • Parenting - drown baby

  • The most common problem: score keeping. 

 

Segment 2:  The golden question of conflict

 

Ryan: if you could give one bit of insight

 

Jim:

  • What are we in conflict about - we’re adults, so we can call them ‘fights’

  • Why are we in conflict - reality 

  • Prevention - over the horizon

  • Recognize

  • Identify

  • Frame

  • Build towards resolution

  • What’s your goal? 

 

Closing:  Final bits.

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45/ Holiday Planning

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43/ Home Maintenance

Home Maintenance is the name of the game today.  This could be considered a financial episode as well as DYI. We talk about the things that fall through the cracks if they aren't maintained — and that costs more money in the long run.  It's filters, appliances, and various other things that can easily be out of sight, out of mind.

44/ Home Improvement

Ryan and Leslie discuss the planning and execution of home improvement projects from the simple projects like new decks to complicated kitchen or bath redos.

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